Handmade Scarf

A friend of mine was learning to sew. She made a couple hats and I said it looked great. It proposed to make one for me with some remnants of what she had. I was thrilled. It took several months to finish and send it to me so that the winter was really over before I got it. Two of us spoke to him in the sale because she was enjoying it so much and she thought it was a great idea. All this happened on Facebook. She had pictures and I thought, 'I love you that "one. She said:" I can give you a hat and a scarf that "one. That's it. Was delighted at my idea of a handmade gift from him.

Now she is unemployed and has been sewing the hats full time to give money for cancer. I have not been to his site so I have no idea how to sell it, but I'm proud of it.

Today, unexpectedly, she wrote me saying she needed money for the hat and scarf. But we did not agree. We never discussed payment. I wanted one, because it would be done at the hand of a friend. I do not have to look over or anything. If I had agreed to pay, he wanted one after she has learned (and not learning a) and I chose the color. There are more than a month since I've had and the subject of the payment can not come up now that she is selling them. His e-mail did not even say anything like please pay this much or shipping address.

I do not know what to say. I do not want to hurt the friendship. Should I mail a check to cover shipping? Simply choose a number like $ 10 to give to charity? Or how much it is now selling them to pay their fair and to save the friendship? What would you do? Etiquette wise, which is the right thing to do?

I do not want to hurt the friendship (it is long distance so we do not talk online) but I am not willing to pay $ 30 for it (since I have no idea how much she wants). I thought it was a gift!

It is a gift to charity, when she has no money. Your money will go straight to the door too. Do not give anything if all it will do is give someone else.

If you are his friend help you if you can with a little money, but it just gives money away they need so I can see why you do not give him money.

If she is your friend, she would request a loan instead of demanding money on a gift she gave you.

Never give it and whether it is crazy, then she is not much of a friend.

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Wow, what a rude lady and not much of a friend,
you're right, you do not agree on a price, color or anything, if you really do not want to
send money or ask how I would ask her email address and hat.
tell him to sell and make money this way, this is what she wants to do ...

or offer to return to her so that she can sell it, it might give the trick
you think she sent it to you as a friend and not for $ ...
Sorry - but thats the easiest way, if you were to send him too little, it would be bad
and you lose as a friend, I think she is just hoping that you send a big check
a friend in need. who knows.

You have absolutely no obligation to pay this friend for nothing! There is no set price. In fact there was no mention of money whatsoever. You do not owe him anything, no shipping, nothing.

It's your hard earned money. You can decide for yourself that the charity you want to give. It should not be making that decision for you.

In fact, I would take a long hard look at this friendship and decide whether or not it is worth saving.

First I would make it very clear to her that you thought it was a gift. I PHR.