Long Wallet

My boyfriend broke up with me for someone else ... girl! But then that same girl began to fall for me, and I saw how much of a fool now my ex is. I started falling for her too, and now I'm in love with her. I'll call Melanie. So, Melanie and I talked for a few months now, and not too long, his ex, and mine got together, and it's always tearing up Melanie. I never know what to do about it, to comfort her, and what not. But I try, and eventually bring him to cheer him know she comes to me, then she will never have to worry. Recently there have been some bumps, but we got through it stronger. We are not in a relationship ... but hopefully we will in the near future. But I get a feeling of doubt, it will never happen. The thing is, is that it feels like a relationship, just off the record. It is a bit like me in more ways than I can count, and we're both crazy each other. Or at least ... I'm crazy about him. I do not know what to think, sometimes. So ... can someone help me understand this? The signs and ... if it wishes to her ex, or just wait until shes ready to officially call? Ok ... So, here are some things we do. We never fight, never we always understand each other and make each other's separate opinions in the concept. I've never had that. We hold hands, and sometimes kiss, or look at each other at the cinema, and everything in general. We talk all the time, on any subject whatsoever randomly on the phone or online, and I mean HOURS. We both caught and sent pictures to each other about ourselves (those random, nice, not naked you perv ...) We surprised each other (eg: Last night, when she came I least expected it, I fell asleep and she kissed me to wake me up and we cuddled for about an hour before she had to go home) and we love spending time with them. Did I mention that we can make each other smile at any time for any reason? I've never been kissed on my birthday, and she did, I never had me a girl buy a gift, and she bought me a brand new portfolio (Wolverine!) And I certainly never had a girl insist on buying me a movie ticket, and she does. These are only some of them. I love beyond all measure different from anything I've ever felt before, and this time I feel I am not blinded or side tracked. But there is always that feeling deep in my gut. I do not feel it unless I think. So my question (after much wacking Bush) is, it seems like shes waiting for the right time to be with me when she is emotionally ready, or is it just dragged me, waiting for his ex (which is still with my ex) or someone better? Please please please ... I need some kind of assistance or closing. please?